Friday, October 10, 2008

I'm NOT Superwoman!

I am having a very rough moment right now so feel free to ignore my vent. Nathan won't take a nap for the second day in a row, Emily is constantly wanting to be held, Jon is working 16 hour days. I just can't do it all anymore. I am not Superwoman. I have so much on my plate between two kids, maintaining the house, being primary president (and trying to prepare for a program that is just 3 Sundays away and sill not completely written), being membership vice president of the MOMS Club, and being in the Michigan Concert Choir that it has finally taken it's toll on me and I can't do it anymore.

Even just typing that little bit has seemed to just taken the weight of the world off my shoulders.

And WHY on earth do baby swings have 6 speeds when all my kids seem to like is the fastest setting????? I just put Emily in the swing to type this knowing that she hates the swing when I remembered that Nathan hated it too unless it was on the fastest setting so I just turned up the speed and Emily is so calm and almost asleep.

UPDATE- Right after typing this I made the decision that I could no longer do choir. I think that really was my breaking point. I wasn't enjoying it anymore because it was more of a hassle than it was worth. I also have come down with a nasty cold (all stuffed up, sore throat, headaches [achy all over really], cold and hot spells, but no fever [thank goodness]) so I am sure that has aided my feelings of inadequacy. Thanks for all your words on encouragement. Nathan is now napping again, and in a couple weeks I will be shipping him off to preschool 2 mornings a week . It will be good for him to have time to be active with other little toddlers and it will give me time to focus on Emily and get the things done that I need to do.


melissa said...

Michelle give me a call i will come help it will get easier as the months go bye i am here to help i like to do service even to help type the program or help write it out let me know i'm not superwoman either but we need to help each other when we can

Jen B. said...

Michelle -- two is CRAZY for the first little while but pretty soon you will get the hang of it. BTW, each one of my kids went through spells where they think that they just don't need to take naps. Well, too bad for them -- I NEED them to take naps. So, my solution -- don't allow them to come out of their room until their nap time is over. In a day or so they were back to taking their naps again. Hopefully this will work for you. Naptime is a way moms get through the day.

Lisa said...

Maybe you should stop doing the choir and other things for a while. I had to stop when I got the kids and my good frend said,.. there is a time and season for everything. That helped me to realize that rigt now, I just needed to focus on being a mom. Good luck! You ARE superwoman! :)

That Girl in Brazil said...

Sigh. Never had a swing, always wanted one.

Some days are like that, girl. But most days AREN'T. So next time it happens (and there WILL be a next time) just remember that it won't last forever and there's opposition in all things.

Stacie and Family said...

Oh, I so understand! (X3 I understand!) It is called "selective neglect." You might have to take time off from choir, and maybe delegate more Primary responsibilities than you would ideally like to.
A great woman and mother of seven I know told me when I was about to have Kaylie (our #4), to remember 4 is not 3 -- you are not going to be able to do all that you currently do or want to do and you need to realize that and be ok with it. She taught me to be ok with saying no sometimes without the guilt, and she gave me the best advice I could have been given. Two is not one! This time will fly by quickly, and really if you can survive the the first year it gets so much easier after that. And when I say survive, I mean enjoy it too! Remember I've had 13 month and 18 month gaps with our four girls -- if I can do it I know you can! If you can manage a weekly date with your hubby, when he is home, it would be so great for the two of you. If you don't have the $$ then when you get the kids to bed have an at home date (i.e. a special dinner or dessert, watch a movie, play a game, etc.) I wish we lived closer still. If you ever want to come visit please just call me! We would love to see you. If there is anything I can do to be of help let me know.